Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Provbers 31: 30-31
I don’t think I have ever met a woman woman who doesn’t like pretty things. We may have different tastes, but we all like clothing, make-up, hair, jewelry and decorative choices based on what we find beautiful.
Do you know where this comes from? God is the ultimate decorator and designer of beauty. Just look around at all the color found in nature, the variety of fruits and the odd and fascinating animals found on our planet. He loves things that are pretty, interesting and creative. Because we have been created in his image we have inherited those same traits only ours are finite and marred by sin.
This is why we love beauty and want to bring it into our home. It is why we want to look nice and experiment with styles and color. But there are also a couple of things we need to be careful of.
1. Outward Vs. Inward Beauty
It is important that we do not spend more time worrying and fussing over the way we look than over our character and our growth in godliness. The real place for beauty and decoration is our soul. Those are the jewels that are most valuable because they are useful in this life and will last through all eternity. Age can’t marr them, death can’t take them from us.
Character qualities like, kindness, gentleness, patience, generosity, hospitality, and wisdom which comes through the knowledge of God’s word, will have an impact not only on our children and our friends, but also on our husbands. It is in our character that our true beauty is seen. It is a picture of our soul. A man whose wife who pursues these things is truly a man who is blessed.
“A beautiful character, will transfigure the countenance. You look into it, and you read refinement, purity, delicacy, peace, love.”
If you are married then work at being a godly wife to your husband so that you can be a blessing and a picture of Jesus to him. If you are single then work at being this kind of woman for the glory of God. You never know, there may be a marriage in your future and your godliness will be a sure blessing for that man.
Oh how easy it is for us to form judgemental thoughts about the appearance of someone else. To talk about the way a friend chooses to decorate her kitchen or the places she chooses to shop for clothes.
I would prefer my daughters have wild colored hair and unique clothing styles but be on fire for God than to have daughters who fit the cultural norm of fashion and have a cold heart towards God. We have much more serious issues we should be spending our time on, like the sin in our own lives.
Fashion styles and “in” colors change from season to season but holiness has been considered beautiful since the beginning of time. Looking like Jesus should be our main goal and our first concern.
We need to take care that we don’t waste the precious time God has given to us by thinking and talking about other peoples lives instead of praying for them and working on our own deficiencies and sins.
It is a woman who fears the Lord instead of man, whose mirror is the word of God and not the world, who is to be praised, who is worth far more than rubies. Her children and those around her will call her blessed and praised her even when she is no longer around.
Dont be afraid to let your style come out in the way you decorate your home, style your hair or in the clothes you chose to wear. This creativity comes from our God, but let’s make sure we spend even more time cultivating a character that makes us beautiful no matter what life throws at us. We must strive for a beautiful soul that will bless those who come in contact with us.
Looking to Jesus,