Haters. It’s a slang term for people who dislike you to the point of hate and speak ill about you.
I have them.
I have a massive boatload of haters on-line.
And God is teaching me SO much through them.
Here’s an example of some negative comments I have received on my Women Living Well Youtube Channel:
- I hate you. You need to be slapped, promoting these erroneous morals that destroy progression in our modern world.
Keep this in mind: You make the world a worse place. You are the reason for war. You are the reason for violence. You are the reason for all of the willful ignorance in the world. YOU are the cause of EVERYTHING evil involving gender equality. YOU.
- How sad that you treat a book that has been rewritten and proven false to be absolute truth. I feel pity that you will never know real life by throwing it away. Stupid doesn’t begin to cover your retarded beliefs. Here’s hoping you grow a brain and are unable to have children to grow up into this self-destroying dogma.
You are a foolish woman!!!
It’s preposterous to claim you follow God’s word literally. You follow what your warped surroundings have ingrained in your twisted mind
Crazy that my post didn’t make it! Can’t deal with the true contradictions of your flawed bible, you ignorant creature? you’re an idiot bigot.
you want to brain-wash your kids into your silly myth and keep them from the truth
- I find you Highly annoying and egregiously idealistic…I am pretty sure you are no Provebs 31 woman, and everything you claim that is so amazing to you is actually so far from reach and unattainable that your constant lust for perfection causes you severe emotional break downs
- God’s word? What bull sh**! What the f*** would you know what god wants?
- this is retarded. , F*** your ideas , F*** your literal bible translation, and F*** you.
And just this week:
- Stupid delusional woman. Grow up (?…)
The first time I ever had a “hater” comment on my blog – I was devastated…it was four years ago on a post about my daughter and this woman commented and said ~ “I hope your daughter becomes an atheist and never speaks to you again.”
Total shock! I only had about 50 followers at the time and it came so out of left field that it troubled me for weeks!
But as my blog grew – the volume of haters grew too.
With each new hater comment, I was a little less shocked…then there were these forums that google sent me alerts about. I was being talked about – so I peaked to see what women were saying. Oh my, it was mean. These women not only hated the gospel but they hated my blond hair, my horse teeth, the sound of my voice and on and on it went. OUCH!
Then there were mommy bloggers who wrote really mean things about me - oh my!!! Where does it end? Facebook, Twitter, blog posts, youtube, and emails – everywhere I turn = HATERS!!!
And I cried out to God – how in the world do I respond to these people? Today’s reading has the answer:
Luke 6:27-36 (NIV)
Love your Enemies
27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. 30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.
32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.
Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.
I remember the first time I felt a tinge of compassion for my haters. I thought – this is not natural – I should be angry and crying…but instead I felt sorry for them. Goodness, these angry people must have had someone treat them really horrible in their childhood…that they would grow up and be so mean to others. I bet somone close to them had hurt them deeply with sharp words that cut like a knife…
…they need Jesus! It was a reality check.
We follow a crucified man…the crowds hated Jesus to the point of death –of course we’re going to have haters!
And while I continued to delete most hater comments, I began attempting to respond from time to time to some of them with mercy, grace and love.
This is NO glory to me but just a testimony of the power of God’s mercy…some of my haters started apologizing and even complementing me! There was this group of wicca witches who wrote harsh blog posts about me and some of my blogger friends who later came to my blog and left surprisingly kind comments. There was the Christian blogger who has very different doctrinal views who wrote a post attacking me, who later apologized to my face at a conference just this past October.
There was one situation where a non-Christian mega mommy blogger who has over 280,000 twitter followers wrote a blog post and mocked me something terrible! Then over 400 of her commenters said how I made them want to throw up, gag or want to slap me. One even said they voted to kill me. Though I got a boat load of negative traffic during this time, I did not respond. Actually, I started leaving kind comments on her blog. And eventually we were private emailing each other in a friendly manner!
That’s God! That’s the power of his mercy!
***Pause for a moment…is there a person that God is bringing to mind that you need to love.
Be kinder than you feel.
Luke 6:35 says – “your reward will be great” if you extend mercy.
I have a feeling the Holy Spirit is bringing someone to mind for all of us. Do you feel that nudge? Don’t ignore it!
We have a direct command from Jesus –”Pray for those who mistreat you.”
Go heap kindness on your enemy! You will be blessed!
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
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