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Reflecting on the Proverbs 31 Woman

Me and my future "Proverbs 31" girls

Do you ever come to the end of a study and feel like you should be showing a lot of improvement by now?  I know I get frustrated with myself sometimes when the change I want  is so slow. At this point I feel like I should have planted a vegetable garden, be a wiz with my sewing machine, only serve healthy homemade meals, have half of the Bible memorized, volunteer at a soup kitchen, have super obedient children and look awesome for my husband when he walks in the door after work.  It is easy to read Proverbs 31, get excited about wanting to become this seemingly perfect kind of woman, and then plummet into despair because the change we see is slow in coming.

Here are a few things that I have walked away with from our study.

1. No one who is perfect.

There is no one person alive who has it all together, either outwardly or inwardly.

    for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
(Romans 3:23)

This should actually be a comfort to those who are feeling defeated. The “perfect” woman does not exist. Only Jesus holds that ability.

It means that we should take repentance seriously and beat down any pride that we may feel.

2. As Christians we are changing

    And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in
you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.
(Philippians 1:6)

Sanctification is usually a slow process by which we are transformed more and more into the image of Christ. While it is the work of God in us it still costs blood, sweat and tears. Christ’s blood and our sweat and tears in the form of hard work (through the power of Jesus) and repentance. If we are faithful we can be assured that God will be faithful as well. And even when we are unfaithful or faithless, he remains ever faithful to us. As time goes by we will be changed.

He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it.
(1 Thessalonians 5:24)

3. We know what kind of woman God wants us to be.

I am so thankful that God included Proverbs 31 in his word. Here we see the kind of woman we should strive to be. We need to seek out godly character qualities like, generosity, kindness and wisdom. We need to be hard working, uncomplaining and devoted to God. The reason we are to seek out these things is because we see all of these qualities in Jesus. He is our example. Because Christ is in us we have the power to be like him.

4. Our hope before God is not becoming a Proverbs 31 woman.

I know the whole point of our study was to learn how to become a Proverbs 31 woman. The principles we see there we can also find laid out for us in other parts of scripture. Yes, we are to strive to be this godly kind of woman, but Proverbs 31 should not be our hope or where we find our identity. My hope is that Christ is a Savior who rescues women, like me, that don’t measure up. He is a Savior of those who are weak, who are tired, who mess up or who sometimes give up. While we should be eager for our character to be reflective of Proverbs 31, it is not our identity. Our identity is found in Christ, through whom we are the adopted children of God the Father. Therefore, no matter what, we are always loved, always forgiven, always heard, always accepted.

God is always at work in his children and the more we study his word, pray for his guidance and wisdom and work hard through his power we will become more and more like this Proverbs 31 woman and therefore more like Christ.

Looking To Jesus,

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  1. Amen! A wise old priest, who has since gone to his eternal reward, used to say at each confession that God would help us to become the saints he wants us to be. Always we are covered in His Grace, what a wonderful source of comfort that is..as is the knowledge that as imperfect as we are, He loves us.

    Thanks for this inspiring post!

  2. I love how you ended this, Jen. No matter how much I want to be the Proverbs 31 Woman, I know that is not my true longing. My true desire to be in relationship with God and knowing that He loves all of me!

  3. Jen, thanks for such and encouragement God bless you. This pass week is been hard to see myself as a proverbs 31, was feeling down and tired of been mistreated by my husband, I do so much and I don’t get appreciation but as I was reading your post, it help me to realize that I am not perfect but am perfect in Jesus, and I will keep my eyes on him and in due time my husband and I will have the unity in the Lord.

  4. Hi, I’d like to do the Proverbs 31 series and I was wondering if there was an easier way to get to week 2. The only way I can find it is to keep hitting “older post”. It takes 10 minutes every time I get on. Thanks for your help!

  5. Jen Thorn says:

    I am so glad you are interested in doing the Proverbs 31 study and I am sorry that you are having a hard time getting to those earlier posts. We are in the process of making some changes to the website and hope that it will be easier to use when it is finished.

  6. Oh how I wish I would have found this bible study before it had ended! This was exactly what I was looking for! :( But I will be joining the fall study!! :)

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