I sat on my ten year old’s bed and felt the heaviness in his heart. Moms feel every bit of that, you know. It had hit sooner than I had hoped, and hurt deeper than I could have ever imagined.
Sometimes you just don’t fit in.
He may have known it before then, but the hot tears streaming down his face confirmed that the blow was a good one this time. His ears stuck out too much, he wasn’t athletic in the least, and that was just the beginning. Forget his inquisitive mind and compassionate heart. Those things don’t feel cool when you’re ten.
I waited until just the right time, then I told him the story of when I was his age. I shared just the highlights: being invited to the birthday party of the year (all of the most popular girls would be there…), me scrounging up all of my spare change to buy the birthday girl the most hideous (but oh so cool at the time!) Pepto-Bismol-pink purse, packing my bag for the overnight bash, only to be uninvited at the exact moment the other eight giggling girls piled into the bus after school to catch a ride to the party. Oh, I remember it like it was yesterday, and I empathized with my struggling boy. My advice to him that night?
The world will always tug at us to fit in. But God has called us to something greater.
I love to read the scriptures out loud. There’s just something about hearing the Word audibly spoken that helps it sink into my heart. So for this Proverbs 31 study, I always looked forward to when Courtney or Angela would quote our verses on their Monday videos. And these words got me every time:
“A wife of noble character who can find?” ~ Proverbs 31:10
Only eight short words, but life changing for me. God really challenged my heart throughout this study in one key area:
Dare to be different than the world.
The world tells us to compromise. The Word tells us to keep doing right.
The world tells us that we deserve better. The Word calls us to be faithful.
The world tries to talk us into cutting corners. The Word speaks of diligence and discipline in our work.
The world tells us to be takers. The Word talks about satisfaction in giving to others.
The world encourages worry. The Word speaks of confidence in Christ.
The world elevates physical beauty. The Word elevates a heart that fears God.
You see, leading a Proverbs 31 life allows for much influence for God. Getting up early, working hard, being creative and profitable, serving others, etc. should not JUST be in an effort to make life run more smoothly (though it is often a wonderful by-product!). Instead, when I am committed and efficient in dealing with my family and in other areas of my life, it makes room for even MORE serving, more loving, more generosity, more time to show God’s love to all around me.
The world says “Look to your own interests.” The Word says, “Point people to Jesus by how you live.”
Sometimes it’s a good thing to not fit in. Will you dare to be different with me?
At His feet,