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Welcome back! We are on the home stretch and up to verse 26 in our Proverbs 31 study!!!
Proverbs 31:26 says
“She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”NIV
Wanna know what my maiden name was? It’s ironic…listen to the video to hear why.
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Putting order on our tongues can be an uphill battle. James 3:2 says there is no one who speaks without fault – none of us are perfect. I testify to this truth as just this week I said something unkind about someone I love and had to apologize 
This scenario reminded me that I can memorize verses and know what I SHOULD and should NOT say – but unless I THINK before I speak – I am going to falter with my words and hurt others.
As women striving to be like the Proverbs 31 woman – we need to:
1. Practice self-control with our emotions. When we speak rapidly – for example when we are lecturing our kids – usually we become unkind.
2. Watch sarcasm – it usually reveals a bitter heart.
3. Watch critical remarks – they are red flags revealing a proud, envious, selfish or angry heart.
Week 9 Challenge:
- Be quick to notice others’ strengths and slow to point out others’ flaws.
- Let your husband hear you teaching your children God’s wisdom. I think this encourages them to see and hear their wise wife
- Work on filtering your words. Strive to be gentle and gracious toward your husband, and children FIRST (who you are at home is who you really are!) and then to others outside the home.
- Purify your heart through the reading of God’s word and put aside all anger, bitterness, malice, slander, envy and self-pity.
It’s your turn – chime in – what part of this challenge is hardest for you?
Walk with the King,
*To find the videos from weeks 1-8 click here .
**To find the Proverbs 31 Bible reading plan – click here and begin Week 9 today.
I needed this tonight. Today was the first day of relief from the heat wave we have been experiencing. We had ten straight days with over 100 degree temperatures. Our air conditioner could not keep up, and trips to the pool were not even much relief as the water got so warm it did not cool us off anymore. My children each had a day of melt down during this time and mine came yesterday. I was not very nice I will have to admit. Today my husband had his meltdown, but it was more in response to mine. I need to remember regardless of my circumstances that I need to filter my words and my thoughts so that kindness rules my speech. What good reminder.
Perfect timing…two areas that I am having difficulty with: sarcasm! and filtering my words! Thank you for this study! it’s changing me! Praise HIM!
I am just now joining up with you all, but this touches on my spirit because I have failed in all these areas. I tend to use a lot of sarcasm at times, but find it annoying in others. It’s no wonder my oldest uses a ton of it in her writing. She has such a poor example. I also have trouble filtering words, especially in those times of anger or irritation. We have four daughters, and I want for them to grow up and be respectful of their husbands. I also want for my son to grow up in search for a virtuous woman. This seems a daunting task when surrounded by females who don’t respect.
GREAT timing and great words! My struggles are with self-control with my emotions. I love and accept the challenge to filter my words – strive to be gentle and gracious towards my husband and children FIRST! They are always and only the ones that get my anger. No one else ever sees it. It really hit me when you said who we are at home is who we really are. I pray God’s strength and power as I work to rid this from my life. Thank you so much for this study. It truly is life changing. And Praise God for the cooler weather today!!!
This is my hardest challenge, my mouth gets me in trouble daily, simply because I talk too much, and often out of anger. Focusing on filling my mind with wisdom, although I’ve heard it before, seemed to be the key I needed to hear after reading this verses this morning. I need to remember God is the only one who can change me, and I need to be in Him and filling myself with His words in order for my words to be a reflection of Him. Thank you for that reminder – here’s to a week of trying to fill my mind in order to better filter my words.
It is hardest to control the tongue at home and the worst for me is in the car alone,my filter is gone til I remember it’s not. The Holy Spirit is with me every minute.
I have struggled and I am still growing each day. I have learned the hard way of taming the tongue but I love that have a forgiving God who never gives up on us and desires our hearts to be transformed and he as enabled us with something like our mouths/tongues to build each other up. We have to seek him daily pray to have a heart of love and to fight the temptations that Satan will do with our that can hurt so badly to others. Thanks for sharing!! http://gracefullygiddy.com/do-our-words-matter/
at times i struggle with all of this! jusst yesterday, my husband received a letter in the mail that we change our future. We didn’t have much time to talk before i had to leave on a photo shoot. i left kind of nervous for him and our family. but i decided to turn on teh music and just praise the Lord for his plans are always PERFECT! i felt very strogly that i needed to guard my words and make sure i was building my husband up and not tearing him down in both my words and actions. So I’m guessing these words are once again in God’s perfect timing! So This week (and for a awhile) I will be focusing on my actions and the words that come out of my mouth). God is good
I can see that I have some work to do. It’s interesting I was just having a conversation with my brother about the power of words. I mainly was referring to building myself up, not necessarily considering watching what or how I respond to others. The statement “who you are at home is who you really are” really caught my attention…a real eye-opener! Love, love, love this study!! Thanks for the great insight!!
This so completely hits home for me. I have been paying extra attention to the way that my little boy reacts to things and some of the times it is not good, and especially not good because I know that it is coming from me. I know that I need to work much harder on this part of myself and I will continue to do so, for my son.
Thank you so much for what you are doing here.
I struggle with all of this most of the time. I can talk to people easily. It has it’s good & bad side. I am a work in progress on this one. It will take until eternity for me to conquer this one, but I will not give up because I have God’s Word & His love on my side.
Loved this!!! I am going to have my teenage daughter watch it, too. We have been struggling with ways to encourage her speech. I loved how you talked about the filter. Thank you for your ministry.
I need to camp out on this week for a long time. I long to be the mom whose speech is wisdom. This video was so encouraging, Courtney! Thank you so much for inspiring me to be more of who God wants me to be!
Thank you for the encouragement…What a great reminder that my mind and heart will spill forth that with which it is filled with…I needed to remember that.
Great video…this chatter box realized this week that I may never be a quiet gal..but I can fill with more and more wisdom so hopefully less foolishness spills out creating fewer messes!