Today we are finishing week 4 of our Ministry of Motherhood book club! I hope you are enjoying this book club and getting as much out of it as I am! Today Courtney and I discuss what we learned from chapters 3 & 4. In your groups and here on our blog, please share your answers to the questions listed at the end of chapter 4 page 57. We always love to hear from you!
One point that struck me from chapter 3 was that Jesus affirmed people before others. I talk about this a little in the video but wanted to expound upon it further here. Speaking words of encouragement over our children is so important because they need to hear:.
- how valuable they are to us.
- how we see God working in their lives: forming their characters, helping them to forgive a friend or sibling who has hurt them, answering their prayers etc.
- what makes them special…..that we love the way God made them.
- that God has GREAT plans for their lives and we can’t wait to see what they are going to do for our Lord.
- what makes them special
- how blessed we feel to be their mom. Some nights when I’m putting my girls to bed I’ll say, “God is so good to me, I can’t believe He gave me my two favorite little girls in the whole world! I wouldn’t want any other little girls except you!”
- that they are my favorite blessings and gifts from God.
- they are answers to my prayers.
Another great quote from Sally in chapter 3 is: “How important it is, then that we mothers, shepherds of our children’s lives and hearts, choose our words to them carefully. We must deliberately aim our words at their hearts in such a way as to give our children hope, faith, strength, and also to point them toward the redeeming love of Christ. We can become the affirming voice of God to our children, just as we become a picture of his redeeming reality in their everyday lives. In this way we extend the gift of grace.”
“I have learned that maturity in Christ is not instantaneous but a slow process.” What a powerful statement and so important for us mothers to remember when dealing with our children. Sometimes I think we can expect to much from our children and we forget how long it has taken us to get to the point where we are at today. We need to remember to be patient as they grow and deepen their relationship with God. They are going to make mistakes, just like we have, but they need to learn to repent, asking for forgiveness and then move forward! We as mothers need to encourage our children in the Lord when they make mistakes.
“Giving our children this gift of forgiving grace can transform their lives by helping them understand that a relationship with God is not something that can be earned by good behavior but a free gift to be accepted with gratitude and repentance.”- Sally Clarkson
Helping our children understand that God forgives is so powerful as they begin to develop their own personal relationships with Him. That’s also why its so important for us moms to learn to extend the gift of grace to them because when we forgive our children, we are teaching them that God forgives them too. I want my children to fall in love with Jesus and know that He loves them no matter what they do. Yes, they need to strive to be like Christ each and everyday…..but on those days when they fail……like we all do…….I want them to know that they can run to Him and ask for His forgiveness and that He will forgive them and tell them to “go and sin no more”.
Now it’s your turn to share! What touched your heart the most this week as we read chapters 3 & 4? What encouraged you?
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Until next time…
Love God Greatly!